“You don’t need to be better than anyone else; you just need to be better than you used to be.” – Wayne Dyer
When we were children we believed that we could do anything. We would tell everyone that when we grew up that we wanted to be a fantastic fireman, nurse, doctor, explorer, a singer, professional skier, teacher, acrobat, or Olympic gold medallist.
As young children, we believed that we would live our lives being the best version of ourselves. There was no self-doubt or limiting beliefs hindering our thoughts about how great we believed we would be. Our dreams were very much our reality – we could do anything and we would be great at it!
Then we grew up and our dreams overnight were deemed to be childish and a waste of time. We also started to accumulate from our negative life experiences so many self-limiting beliefs that many of us lost sight of our true potential.
We stopped dreaming and we stopped believing in ourselves. Instead, we started to worry about what we didn’t have and what we were missing out on in our lives.
Our success and belief in ourselves were measured on the accumulation of other people’s wealth and success. Over time these feelings of stress, frustration, regret, and fear started to dominate our lives and our thoughts.
I believe that we are bought into this world to contribute and to make a difference in our family and communities in whatever way that maybe. Some of us become famous and make a significant contribution to the hundreds or even millions of people.
Some of us volunteer, some of us teach, some of us save people’s lives and some of us raise children to be great future leaders. Whatever role we play in the world it is our responsibility to live our lives being the best version of ourselves that we can be. That is our legacy.
If you are not living your life being the best person you want to be and you have stopped dreaming don’t give up – there is hope.
If you do these 3 things right now then you will be well on your way to achieving your dreams and living your life to the fullest.
1. Start Using Your Power Of Choice
The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have. ~ Louis E. Boone
The journey to living life being the best person you can be starts with you. It starts with you using a wonderful gift called the Power of Choice, which we all have, and yet some of us are afraid to use it.
Using your power of choice means that you have to step out of your comfort zone. If you choose to do nothing and keep the status quo you will keep getting the same results.
Your self-limiting beliefs will eventually prevent you from living your life to your fullest potential. Over time you will find that you will become more frustrated, angrier, and stressed about your life.
Use your power of choice to empower you to start living life the way you won’t live it. Your Power of Choice is the one thing you have that you control and using it wisely will enable you to live your life being the best version of yourself.
2. Prepare for and Embrace Change
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did. ~ Mark Twain
Living in a world of constant change is our reality today. The one thing that is constant in our lives is change.
In my work as a coach, I often hear the phrase “I didn’t see it coming or I didn’t think that it would happen to me” These statements are from people who live in denial and are refusing to recognize the numerous signs that change is in the air.
Preparing for and embracing change is also closely connected to you using your power of choice. You can’t do one without the other.
To want to make any change in life I believe one has to be at a certain point of pain to start considering the possibility of choosing to do something about changing the situation.
The intensity of this point of pain can differ for people but for most of us, we are usually at our rock bottom before we even start to consider that the life we are currently living is not the life we want to live.
Being at rock bottom can be a powerful motivator for those of us who want to be the best version of themselves. We only have two options to consider. We can stay where we are and do nothing or we can choose to make the changes we need to move forward in our lives.
We all want to live happy lives and we all want to live our lives being the best version of ourselves. However, when it comes to us, making that choice to start and stay on the journey of self-discovery is not easy.
Losing weight in some ways is a lot easier because you can choose to follow a program and you get to measure your success – when you weigh in! This is a very tangible way to measure success whereas the journey of self-discovery the measurement of success is not so tangible.
To stay on track on your journey of self-discovery you do need to be more vigilant. Consistently planning for and embracing change builds your resilience to stay on your journey to living your life to your fullest potential. When you are living your life to the fullest you will discover that you start to dream again and your dreams over time become your reality.
3. Build Your Resilience So You Can Bounce Back Faster & Stronger
“It’s your reaction to adversity, not adversity itself that determines how your life’s story will develop.” Dieter F. Uchtdorf
Life throws us curveballs all the time and how we handle the curveballs in our life determines the success and quality of our life. It is very hard to live life to the fullest when you can’t bounce back from hardship, pain, and adversity.
I believe the two key ingredients that help you to be the best version of yourself are your power of choice and your ability to embrace change. Without these two ingredients in your life, your resilience levels are going to be very low.
Being physically active is also important to building resilience. I don’t know how I would have survived all the curveballs that were thrown at me if I hadn’t started running.
Physical activity breaks down the painful emotional blocks that we hold within our bodies. When dealing with painful events in my life I hold my emotional block in my stomach – some people hold them in their chest or even in their heads. These emotional blocks are the painful feelings we have and these blocks feel like concrete.
The only way I could break this heavy feeling in my stomach was to run. In the morning I would wake up feeling nauseous. I would drag myself out of bed and get dressed in my running gear.
At the same time, I would be forcing myself not to listen to my negative self-talk – which was very powerful and was telling me to go straight back to bed and hideaway.
For months this battle with my negative self-talk would happen even when I knew that running made me feel better. What helped me win my battle with my negative self-talk was that I used my power of choice. I choose to keep running. I knew that if I stopped running I would not heal and that was not an option for me.
Choose a physical activity that works for you and stick to it. Get out and about and allow your body to feel the positive energy flowing within it. Keep doing this along with you using your power of choice and embracing change and the result without a doubt will be a stronger, more resilient, and lot happier you.
At this point, you will also find that being the best version of yourself will be your reality and not just a wishful dream.
“You create your thoughts, your thoughts create your intentions, and your intentions create your reality.” Wayne Dyer