Irrespective of how smart or intelligent you are, forget the praises of being a nerd or wiz, there are some statements no one should say at work.
Let me make it clear from this point, there are some words you don’t want to say at your place of work or any former gathering.
This isn’t because you’ve sold your right to speak but based on the fact that they carry enough negative energy to paint you very bad, demoralize others or even get you fired in a jiffy.
Aside from this, we all know once we speak, taking them back is impossible, we can only readdress them, instead of seeking redress, why not just avoid these words? There are times we spill incoherent political jokes, make jokes that are totally off point, or other shocking slips of the tongue, in as much all these make us one look comical for a few minutes.
There are still heavier statements every career person or entrepreneur should avoid at the workplace or while discussing with leads or clients.
Most times, it is those awful remarks that make us look dump or create a bad us to fellow employees or clients.
Let me guess, you’re probably wondering how many times you’ve said some of these words unknowingly? Well, we all make mistakes, so cheer up.
I’ve drafted 9 phrases/statements everyone should avoid at an informal setting, especially at the workplace.
1. ‘I hate this job.’
It might sound funny but this should only come from anyone who is about to submit their resignation letter. No matter the heat or pressure, it is good to hold on. Mental toughness is what you need. Although, there isn’t any master-class that can take to be mentally tough like experiences would do.
Doing so automatically tags you as a damaging individual and lowers down the drive of the group. Superiors are quick to catch on to pessimists who drag down morale, and they know that there are always passionate substitutions waiting just around the corner.
2. I’m sorry for what I’m about to say/This may be a terrible idea but…/Folks, I’m about to ask a silly question.’
These overly passive statements instantly reduce your credibility. Even if you follow these statements with an impressive idea, they suggest that you lack full confidence, which makes the people you’re speaking to lose confidence in you.
I always advise colleagues not to be their own worst critics, that if they need to be at all. If you aren’t confident of what you’re saying, nobody will be either. If you are not very sure of what you are about to say, it is honorable to say, “I don’t have that information at the moment, but I’ll making findings and get right back to you.
3. ‘This isn’t fair.’
We all know that life is amoral. Reiterating this shows that you expect a form of different treatment from life and to be sincere this makes you look so immature and naive to peers.
To avoid looking bad and naive, always remind yourself of this fact and leave your truth or interpretations out of it. Instead, you should say, “I noticed that you assigned Mr. X to oversee that massive project I was hoping for. Can you tell me how the decision went south for me? I’d like to know why the board thinks I wasn’t a good fit; I believe knowing this would make me work on my flaws.”
This a better approach instead of saying assuming life isn’t fair. It creates a better you.
4. ‘This isn’t the modus operandi, there’s a way we do it around here.’
A businessman once told me, “weekend is a long time in business, things move fast like the speed of light”. Just the cryptocurrency graph, nothing is static.
Technology-induced change is happening so fast that even a six-month-old process could be outdated.
You said the workforce should stick to the modus operandi of decades will only show how lazy and resistant to innovations you are.
Aside from this, most employees, boss or HRs would count this and the major reason for lack of growth. If you really are doing things the way they’ve always been done, there’s almost certainly a better way, find it and adapt.
5. ‘This shouldn’t take a minute.’
I understand we say this to probably express the simplicity of the task or sound professional, however, to say that something only takes a minute or less only challenges your skills and gives the impression that you don’t pay attention to details.
Although, if you’re literally going to complete the task within or less than 60 seconds, it is more formal to say that it won’t take long, meanwhile, don’t make it sound as though the task can be completed any sooner than it can actually be finished.
Get things straight and don’t belittle your potentials.
6. ‘That isn’t part of the job agreement/description.’
This often-sarcastic expression makes you sound as though you’re only willing to do the bare slightest required to keep getting a rate, which is a bad thing if you like job safety.
If your superior assigns a task that you think is totally unsuitable for your position, as opposed to morally or fittingly unfitting, the best move is to complete the task enthusiastically. Later, fix a discussion with your boss to discuss your role in the establishment and whether your work description needs to be brought up-to-date.
This ensures that you stop being petty. And, it enables you and your superior to develop a lasting understanding of what is expected of you.
7. ‘I’ll try.’
Just imagine a pilot telling you I will “try” to fly a plane. This sounds novice. There’s a level of confidence that is expected to be displayed. Expert advice suggests you get full control of your capabilities. If your work or a special duty is assigned to you, either offer to do it or make suggestions, it isn’t good to say that you’ll try.
8. ‘He’s so incompetent/He’s a jerk.’
There is no rationale for you to make a detrimental statement about your colleague at work. Even if such a person is really what you have said they are, you don’t have to say it, it’s obvious to all and shouldn’t be heard from you.
There will always be impolite or ineffectual individuals in any workplace, and chances are that every person knows who they are. if you feel you aren’t in the right position to help or fire them, then I believe it profits you in no way by making their ineptitude known to others.
Making statements about your folk’s incompetence comes across as an insecure attempt to make you look better.
Sensitive HRs would notice this and count it as callousness, if caution is not, this callousness may unavoidably come back to haunt you in the form of your colleagues’ bad opinions of you.
9. ‘It isn’t my fault’.
Be accountable, it has never been a nice thing to blame others. If any role is assigned to you, no matter how small, in whatever goes south, own it. otherwise, offer a very precise and objective explanation of how it happened.
Stick to the facts, and leave it to the discretion of your boss and colleagues to draw their inferences about who truly deserves the blame. The instance you start pointing accusing fingers is the moment your colleagues would begin to see you as a person who lacks accountability for their actions.
This naturally makes your teammates nervous. Some may avoid taking joint roles with you altogether, and others may complain first and blame you when anything goes south.
It is good to know that it will take a cautious effort to totally erase these vocabularies from your memory. Meanwhile, the short- and long-term advantages of avoiding these vocabularies are worth it.